I use many treatments for unwanted habits, or what many people call bad habits. As a psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist, I have found that the best way to remove unwanted habits is to use a variety of different techniques. So, I combine hypnotherapy, NLP and psychotherapy to create an individual treatment plan tailored to you. If you want to find out more about how I work with unwanted habits, read on, or get in touch to book your free,
Unwanted or bad habits should not be confused with addictions. Habits are often only part of a deeper addiction. Habits can also be both positive and negative, whereas addictions are never positive. Habits are moderately easy to change, whereas addictions take a much longer time to resolve. For help with addiction, visit my addictions page.
Habits can be broken
We have all experienced at some point in our lives that habits can be broken; they sometimes fade away; or get replaced by something new. If you stop and think about it, there will be a habit that you used to do as a child that you no longer do. It is just the same as beliefs. For example, once, we all believed in Father Christmas 100%, but at some point we realised the truth and, now, as adults, we don’t believe in him 100% (apologies if I have spoiled it for any of you!). The point I’m making is this: change is possible.
Using NLP to treat habits – to swap out old for new
It is also true that when we remove an old habit, our unconscious mind will find a new one that it thinks will ‘protect’ us to replace it; and fill the ‘hole’ left behind. For, haven’t we all known a non-smoker who feels the urge to comfort-eat instead? This is because the old saying, “Nature abhors a vacuum,”
So, using hypnotherapy and NLP, whenever we get rid of an old, negative habit we make sure we replace it with a new, positive, healthy version that won’t impede on your life.
You can be rid of your old habit. Not only that, but I will help you find a new, positive, healthy way of replacing the old habit in a way that suits you best.
Common unwanted habits
Here are some of the usual suspects, to give you an idea of my experience:
- Finger nail biting
- Skin picking
- Skin scratching
- Hair pulling or twirling
- Teeth grinding
- Checking social media or devices
- Watching TV
- Drinking coffee
- Drinking tea
- Drink carbonated drinks
- Drinking caffeinated / taurine drinks
- Eating chocolate
- Eating sugary foods
- Eating fast foods
- Eating too fast, not chewing
- Biting your pen or pencil
- Chewing gum
- Spending on credit cards
- Emotional shopping
Habits are an attempt by your unconscious mind to protect you
So, in order to tackle your habit, we need to look at the psychology behind it. What triggers it? When did you first notice it appeared? Childhood? More recently? What was happening in your life at the time it first appeared?
At some level, your unconscious mind is trying to protect you; to keep you safe or calm. This is what we call the ‘positive intention’ behind your habit. Once we know what the real positive intention is, then we use a wonderful technique to persuade your unconscious mind to find a new way of satisfying that positive intention.
Part of you does: part of you doesn’t
With bad habits, I find an NLP technique called Parts Therapy is particularly powerful. Parts Therapy is based on the concept that our personality is composed of a number of various ‘parts.’ Each part has a job to do, with a positive intention for doing so.
So, for example, you might say that you want to stop nail biting, but a ‘part’ of you is still choosing to bite your nails as it believes it helps you to relax. In other words, part of you does: part of you doesn’t.
Parts therapy is the process of calling out and speaking directly with the parts, and this normally involves mediation between two parts in conflict. With my help, they work together to find a common, pleasing solution that is acceptable to both parts, and is also healthy and positive for you. It is powerful stuff.
To find out more, get in touch.
If you have decided to stop your habit, then using my hypnotherapy clinic in Oxford, you will have the strongest chance of stopping. The old habit you are experiencing is neither inevitable, nor incurable. Working with me, using the powerful, lasting therapies I employ, means you do have a choice.
To find out more, call me today on 07702 911787 or email for a FREE, no-obligation, initial therapy consultation.