As a registered psychotherapist and hypnotherapist, I use many treatments for dealing with anger. I combine hypnotherapy, NLP and psychotherapy to create an individual anger management treatment tailored to you. If you want to find out more about how I work with anger, read on, or get in touch to book your free, 30-minute therapy consultation.
Anger: can hypnotherapy / psychotherapy help?
Yes, it can. In order to tackle your anger problems we need to look at the psychology behind it. What triggers it? When did you first notice it appeared? Childhood? More recently? What was happening in your life at the time it first appeared? Are there any other mental health issues underlying the problem, like depression, anxiety or stress?
Why do I get so angry? How can I cure anger?
Anger is just an emotion. So, anger by itself isn’t a bad thing. Anger only grows into something bad when it is not vented appropriately. It is my job to help my clients deal with their ‘today anger’ by teaching them how to vent it safely – and then giving them the life-tools with which to manage their own anger in future. I also help my clients to remove deeply buried anger from the past that is continually playing havoc in their today life.
Anger can be a good thing
Anger is healthy and can be useful. For example, if it weren’t for anger, there would still be ‘sweat-shops’ with child-labour in existence. In this instance, someone got angry enough to motivate people to make positive change happen. So, anger is not the villain we often perceive it to be.
Healthy anger has a few identifiable points, it is:
- Focused or targeted at the person who triggered it off
- Physically expressed without hurting self or others
- In proportion
- Expressed when it arises or as soon as safely and wisely possible thereafter.
As I have said earlier, anger only becomes a problem when we repress it and are unable to find a way to release it. At first, it is fine to repress anger. In fact, in some cases it is important to repress anger: for instance, you wouldn’t want to lose your job for shouting at your boss, or get a larger fine for verbally assaulting a traffic police officer. However, when repressed anger goes past its ‘sell-by date’ you begin to suffer emotionally and physically. You may not even recognise it as anger – by then, it may well be an illness or depression.
Anger and depression
Some people are extremely over-controlled emotionally; almost robot-like. They are often terrified of their anger, believing that to show any strong emotion could cause them to lose control and give into the violent rage they fear.
Some people learned as children that they had no rights to emotion, therefore finding it difficult to laugh, cry, complain or even express an opinion. Parents or carers may well have crushed any sign of emotion from these children from an early age. I find that many clients, who have been raised as children by overly strict or strongly religious parents, tend to bury their anger because it is regarded by the parents as a shameful behaviour. So, they stifle all their emotions, including anger. These people grow up feeling bitter resentment towards others with whom they are angry because they feel it is too rude or impolite to be angry and so instead, they let their anger fester. You may have heard of the term ‘passive-aggressive’ behaviour. Well this is part of it, and it is very common amongst us ‘polite’ Brits, whatever the ethnic origin. This festering resentment is unhealthy and will eventually lead to depression if
Anger – out of control
Some people are not robot-like and instead have lower emotional control. As a result of not venting anger properly and safely, these people store it inside and then eventually ‘explode’ – lashing out at those around them, either verbally, physically or both. Some people deliberately take their temper out on inanimate objects by breaking them; some physically hurt themselves, animals or other people; some scream and shout at their children. People who are bristling with anger can also find themselves swearing and cursing as a matter of course in every day conversation.
It is my job to help you vent such anger safely until there is none left. In addition to helping you with your ‘today anger’ I can also help you to resolve the original trauma or abuse (usually in childhood) that started the anger behaviour as a ‘go-to’ in the first place.
How I use NLP, Inner Child Therapy and Hypnotherapy for anger
I usually combine different treatments for clients because everyone is unique.
I can resolve the immediate problem using powerful methods which allow clients to vent their anger safely. I can also teach to you these methods as an ongoing life-tool.
I also look at underlying causes of repressed anger: such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem or stress, using a technique called Inner Child Therapy, which you can read more about here.
Or it could be that using NLP treatment, to set up new positive behaviours when you feel anger, will help.
In all cases, I employ hypnotherapy to suggest positive change to your unconscious mind about the safe venting of anger. I also teach you self-hypnosis and breathing techniques for self-calming purposes.
Anger clinic for Oxfordshire
If you have decided to do something about your anger, then using my therapy clinic in Oxford, you will see results. The old behaviour you are experiencing is neither inevitable, nor incurable. Working with me, using the powerful, lasting therapies I employ, means you do have a choice.
To find out more, call me today on 07702 911787 or email for a FREE, no-obligation, initial consultation.