Assertiveness

I can teach you to become more assertive, as it can be taught at any age in life; it is not something we are naturally born with.

I can also tell you that as a happy by-product of using any of my treatments you may find that you achieve some level of assertiveness as a result of feeling resolved; more self-assured, more self-loving, calm and confident.

However, I can help you to build upon this natural level of assertiveness with some additional training in a session.

Read on to find out more about how I do this, or get in touch to book your free, 30-minute consultation.

Assertiveness training with Damon

An assertiveness session with me is usually a stand-alone session that we would typically tag on to the end of another treatment area you may have come to see me about, such as: confidence, self-esteem, anxiety, stress, or guilt, for example. However, it can also be booked as a one-off session if this is a specific area you wish to look at, particularly if it is a self-improvement goal, for example: “I want to be more assertive with my boss at work.”

What is assertiveness?

Assertiveness includes:

  • Respecting yourself: who you are and what you do.
  • Being able to stand up for yourself, making sure your feelings are considered and not letting other people always get their way.
  • Allowing yourself to make mistakes. Recognising and freely accepting that sometimes you will make mistakes, and that it is OK to make mistakes.
  • Allowing yourself to enjoy your successes. Validating yourself and what you have done and being able to share it with others.
  • Knowing it is okay to change your mind, if and when you choose to.
  • Asking directly and clearly for what you want, rather than hoping someone will notice what you want.
  • Setting clear boundaries. Deciding what your position is regarding some matter and then sticking to it. For example, “My position is that I don’t buy from unsolicited callers.”

It is not the same as aggressiveness. You can be assertive without being forceful or rude. Instead, it is stating clearly what you expect and insisting your rights are considered.

Assertion is not about winning, but is concerned with being able to walk away feeling that you put across what you wanted to say.

It is also not the same as being passive. For example, saying ‘yes’ to someone who has asked you to do something, when you really want to say ‘no’ can make you miserable. It can even irritate the person you are saying ‘yes’ to, when you end up making excuses to get out of what you said ‘yes’ to doing in the first place.

Try to think about a time when someone else has been assertive with you and respected your opinion. How did you feel about them and yourself?

Contact Damon to book your Free Consultation

To find out more, get in touch today on 07702 911787 for a FREE, no-obligation 30 minutes initial consultation.